04 Nov Facts on Starting an LGBT Family from US Fertility Network
Starting a family is a big decision for most people. For lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) persons or couples, starting a family is difficult. However, many options exist. Fertility agencies and centers can help people in their pursuit of happiness.
With open adoption, the adoptive parents and birth mother/parents benefit. This option to starting a family gives everyone involved more information regarding each other, including adoptive parent(s), birth parent(s), and the child. The birth parents and adoptive parents meet before the adoption occurs, and they share information. Over the years, many adoptive parents remain in contact with the birth mother and/or father, so the child can get to know these people.
Open adoption gives birth parents peace of mind knowing that the child will be raised in a safe, stable home, and the adoptive family can receive more information regarding the child’s family medical history. Additionally, the child gets to know about his/her biological heritage and background. There are some challenges associated with open adoption, however. For instance, there is a chance that the match does not work out. However, a qualified, reputable adoption agency can alleviate some of the stress associated with open adoption by weeding out potential problems and scams, as well as alleviating stress for perspective and birth parents.
Foster Care and Adoption
Foster care involves a situation where a minor has been temporarily placed in a safe environment when the biological mother and/or father cannot provide a suitable home. Children often end up in foster care due to neglect, abuse, death of parents, parental drug issues, and divorce. Foster care is only a temporary solution until the child is reunited with his/her parents, or until he/she can be placed with adoptive parents.
Before opening their home to a new family member, the adoptive parents must fully understand the child’s background. If you choose to adopt a foster child, or become a foster parent, you will provide stability to the child’s life by providing a safe, comforting home environment. Additionally, the child may be forced to leave their home because of sexual orientation or gender identity.
With surrogacy, a woman (called a surrogate) carries and gives birth to a child for another person or couple. The prospective parents can attend prenatal visits, be present for sonograms, and be there for the delivery. The cost of hiring a surrogate runs around $100,000, which includes lawyer fees, medical procedures, and agency fees. In addition, many insurance companies do not cover the cost of in vitro fertilization or artificial insemination. However, surrogacy can benefit couples as the male partner can donate sperm for fertilization, so the child will have one actual biological parent.
For two lesbian women who want a child, a common choice is assisted reproduction. One of the women in the relationship can carry the baby, which is conceived using a sperm donor. The sperm of a donor is used to fertilized eggs in the laboratory setting. If both women wish to be a biological parent, they can have eggs retrieved to be fertilized in the laboratory. Two resulting embryos can be implanted into one woman to carry for delivery.
Assisted reproduction offers many benefits. The couple can experience the pregnancy together, participating in doctor visits, Lamaze classes, and the actual delivery. From the moment of conception, both women are involved in the child’s life. When the sperm donor is known to the prospective parents, the child can develop a relationship with him. The sperm donor may wish to remain anonymous, but parents can still have access to his biological makeup and heritage.
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